What kind of ego does it take for a young woman to consider herself a "future trophy wife?" I am not sure but I do see such women "acting out" in my classes all the time.
It seems that the Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter universes have given us -- many of us -- an incredibly inflated view of our own beauty, intelligence, and future value to the real universe. While I do think that a healthy ego is the key to a successful life -- I don't really think that Twitter or Instagram gives us a true reflection of our value as contributing humans.
Being on Twitter or one of the other social media confines and delimits the universe of experiences we should be getting. This limitation is a like a "mirrored fun house" all reflecting our own image(s) back to us, and creating a sense of importance and beauty that far outstrips reality. A blonde slightly overweight single Mother considers herself a "trophy" wife because she has survived childbirth, has a coterie of middle-class friends like herself, and is spoiled ruthlessly both by her child and her parents --- who continue to take care of their little darling just as if she were still in high school. This slightly self-dazzled child somehow considers herself special -- just because she is spoiled and lucky.
She is special, but not for any of the reasons she thinks. She is special because she bears the burdens of expectation, but lacks the real will to work for it. She is special because she doesn't understand failure -- and so is doomed to experience the worst of it. Her own inflated ego destines her for failure.
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