Some friends of mine, Dick and Polly, used to use the phrase "I know famous people" -- to indicate the name-dropping shallow people who are around us. They express grief when they don't really feel anything; they always "lead' with an "I" every time they speak; their expressions are meaningless, nonsensical, or just plain prevaricating.
Donald Trump speaks like that. Almost sociopathic in its intense falseness. He also uses the "people say" as his famous people to bolster whatever "blind lie" he is going to express. "People say," most experts think," or even "everyone knows." Donald Trump is a practiced by rudely obvious liar.
As "all of us" know! (Hah).
Thursday, April 12, 2018
Wednesday, April 11, 2018
Private Message for C. H-H.
Positive / Negative
You are confused about all kinds of things / On the one side you have "family heritage preaching" and your own insecurities; on the other side you had a righteous scholarship offer.
You "disremember" things to support your family's sense of your "victimization." / Your family victimized you when you were young(er) and vulnerable; now your extended family does the same in new ways.
Your future as a student is somewhat diminished unless you make decisions for yourself. / Your powerful and controlling "in loco parentis" group feels you have to prove yourself.
You rightly want to "prove" yourself to your aunts and others. / Apparently you will go to any lengths to protect the family you have left -- even embellishing the truth and creating a "new history" with lies of omission.
You created a sense of self-righteous indignation over "invasive questions" asked of you about religion, family, and self. / You were told beforehand the questions could be embarrassing and would certainly be invasive: and that you didn't necessarily have to answer any of them.
You claim to be an innocent "young girl" put upon by "yet another" male figure. / No one can do this to you: you are neither a young girl, nor are you put upon by anyone except your family and your past experiences.
Past history haunts you (and confuses you). / But your "new present" scares and depresses.
You need to grow up and face up to your life, your condition, your treatment and likely outcomes. / No one can do that for you; your must do it for yourself.
You often think you are "not free" and that seriously depresses you, or makes you anxious. / You are set up with medication, "therapy," and "in loco parentis" support to exacerbate that condition.
In spite of undercutting and condemning those who offered you opportunities; you are still respected
and "loved" (in the widest sense) by them. / You are not a "young girl"; no one has currently victimized you; and your life is yours to "create."
You are confused about all kinds of things / On the one side you have "family heritage preaching" and your own insecurities; on the other side you had a righteous scholarship offer.
You "disremember" things to support your family's sense of your "victimization." / Your family victimized you when you were young(er) and vulnerable; now your extended family does the same in new ways.
Your future as a student is somewhat diminished unless you make decisions for yourself. / Your powerful and controlling "in loco parentis" group feels you have to prove yourself.
You rightly want to "prove" yourself to your aunts and others. / Apparently you will go to any lengths to protect the family you have left -- even embellishing the truth and creating a "new history" with lies of omission.
You created a sense of self-righteous indignation over "invasive questions" asked of you about religion, family, and self. / You were told beforehand the questions could be embarrassing and would certainly be invasive: and that you didn't necessarily have to answer any of them.
You claim to be an innocent "young girl" put upon by "yet another" male figure. / No one can do this to you: you are neither a young girl, nor are you put upon by anyone except your family and your past experiences.
Past history haunts you (and confuses you). / But your "new present" scares and depresses.
You need to grow up and face up to your life, your condition, your treatment and likely outcomes. / No one can do that for you; your must do it for yourself.
You often think you are "not free" and that seriously depresses you, or makes you anxious. / You are set up with medication, "therapy," and "in loco parentis" support to exacerbate that condition.
In spite of undercutting and condemning those who offered you opportunities; you are still respected
and "loved" (in the widest sense) by them. / You are not a "young girl"; no one has currently victimized you; and your life is yours to "create."
Tuesday, April 10, 2018
The World is What It Is
Trump is trumpeting how "attorney client privilege is dead" --- in his case, it should be. Those people among us who use such "privileges" to evade the law need to be exposed, and punished if they have broken laws that the rest of us obey.
Trump is the President, but he is certainly not "above the law" nor can he use his sacred post to work above and around the law. If he is a criminal, he should be impeached (or indicted) and punished just like anyone else.
"You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free!' Good words: too bad our President doesn't read more. Fox News is neither freedom, nor truth.
Trump is the President, but he is certainly not "above the law" nor can he use his sacred post to work above and around the law. If he is a criminal, he should be impeached (or indicted) and punished just like anyone else.
"You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free!' Good words: too bad our President doesn't read more. Fox News is neither freedom, nor truth.
Monday, April 9, 2018
Sex is...
Not a sin, no matter what the Lutherans say. Fun and healthy. Connected to compassion, love, and health is the most important of ways. More than an endorphin "high." A right of all humans.
Not predatory -- but does include flirtation/response, joy/desire, touch/reaction.
Sex needs to be understood by children (as soon as they are able) and not as a "good touch/bad touch" fallacy. Children are never to be abused, or used, or confused by sex or its accoutrements.
Children need to have a healthy balanced view of sex -- and its connections to love among those who are ready for eros.
Talking about sex among and between "adults" is not a moral failing; it is necessary. America "does" sex and the education about sex worse than any other nation in any other time period.
Not predatory -- but does include flirtation/response, joy/desire, touch/reaction.
Sex needs to be understood by children (as soon as they are able) and not as a "good touch/bad touch" fallacy. Children are never to be abused, or used, or confused by sex or its accoutrements.
Children need to have a healthy balanced view of sex -- and its connections to love among those who are ready for eros.
Talking about sex among and between "adults" is not a moral failing; it is necessary. America "does" sex and the education about sex worse than any other nation in any other time period.
The Purpose of Death
Everything dies. Everyone dies: humans, machines, migrating birds, beliefs, families, doubts -- everything. We perhaps will never learn the purpose, even if we have faith in a "higher power" -- as I do.
There are no doubt physical and mechanical laws governing this. Or perhaps reasons in faith beyond our ken. The only thing we can be sure of is that everything does die, in its own time, in its own way.
Mankind didn't cause death; mankind is not responsible for it. Perhaps the higher power is the cause of death?
It is an age old question discussed by every religious tome and in every college dorm. And it is a verity.
There are no doubt physical and mechanical laws governing this. Or perhaps reasons in faith beyond our ken. The only thing we can be sure of is that everything does die, in its own time, in its own way.
Mankind didn't cause death; mankind is not responsible for it. Perhaps the higher power is the cause of death?
It is an age old question discussed by every religious tome and in every college dorm. And it is a verity.
Sunday, April 8, 2018
Mentor
As a mentor, whether it is within a business or a classroom or as a "life coach," it is always important to announce your "steps" (in an interview for example) clearly, forthrightly, and without prevarication.
I have always done that -- in all my "interviewing" in various jobs as a grants investigator, as a background checker, and as a teacher. Sometimes employees or interviewees are so "taken" or "excited" that they fail to hear correctly. When I announce that I have to ask invasive questions -- I would always give my reasoning. That is the "honor code" of a teacher, a life coach, a mentor, and a friend.
I have only had one example in my entire life as a teacher, leader, mentor and friend (52 years of service) of someone who so confusedly misconstrued my motives that they "warned me never to do it again." People are always entitled to their opinions, even when they are wrong. The example was very, very recent -- and it involves basic self-delusion on the part of the individual being interviewed. I believe there is nothing I could have done differently, and nothing I should have done differently, and nothing that I would have done differently. I swear on my life that this is the "truth" as I see it.
If there is disagreement -- the two people involved should both "walk away" -- which I did and urged the interviewee to do as well. I wish this person "good luck" always.
I have always done that -- in all my "interviewing" in various jobs as a grants investigator, as a background checker, and as a teacher. Sometimes employees or interviewees are so "taken" or "excited" that they fail to hear correctly. When I announce that I have to ask invasive questions -- I would always give my reasoning. That is the "honor code" of a teacher, a life coach, a mentor, and a friend.
I have only had one example in my entire life as a teacher, leader, mentor and friend (52 years of service) of someone who so confusedly misconstrued my motives that they "warned me never to do it again." People are always entitled to their opinions, even when they are wrong. The example was very, very recent -- and it involves basic self-delusion on the part of the individual being interviewed. I believe there is nothing I could have done differently, and nothing I should have done differently, and nothing that I would have done differently. I swear on my life that this is the "truth" as I see it.
If there is disagreement -- the two people involved should both "walk away" -- which I did and urged the interviewee to do as well. I wish this person "good luck" always.
Saturday, April 7, 2018
No Quarter by Death for Linda
My younger sister died two days ago, on April 5, 2018. She did not deserve to die; no one does. And yet human beings die -- unsolicited, undeservedly, without grace or quarter. Why?
Why are we here? Christians say "to redeem our corrupt souls!" Why are we corrupt? Because we are human? Because of the "sin" committed by the first two humans. Sorry, I just can't fathom that. It makes no sense -- even with the eyes of faith and belief. So Linda died for no reason except her body fell apart. Mechanical, not vengeful!
Linda did not deserve to die. No one does. Why did God, if there is one, do this to humankind. Why does anyone still believe in an all-powerful but vengeful God? Why? Why? Why?
Why are we here? Christians say "to redeem our corrupt souls!" Why are we corrupt? Because we are human? Because of the "sin" committed by the first two humans. Sorry, I just can't fathom that. It makes no sense -- even with the eyes of faith and belief. So Linda died for no reason except her body fell apart. Mechanical, not vengeful!
Linda did not deserve to die. No one does. Why did God, if there is one, do this to humankind. Why does anyone still believe in an all-powerful but vengeful God? Why? Why? Why?
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