It's amazing to me the number of human beings affected by anxiety -- which often leads to depression (and bad choices) -- because of sex. I see it in the youngest of my students -- often no more than 14 or 16 years of age (the State of Georgia has a "dual enrollment process" for students in high school and college).
My youngest students (usually just turned 14) are certainly not socially adept, nor are they sexually sophisticated in any sense of that term. Most, if not all, are virgins. Most, if not all, talk and joke as if they are not virgins (especially the boys). Many of them, if they have had sexual "experiences" they are limited to masturbatory or fantasy sex or they have been molested or assaulted. Yes, girls are more "mature" than boys -- but both genders are inadequate to be fully sexual -- lacking knowledge, parental support, and willing and/or mature enough partners.
Older dual enrolled students (17 or 18) have usually had sex -- but learned little if anything from their experiences. Some of the girls, once sexualized, are ready for marriage or at least permanent relationships -- or so they think. The great bulk of those relationships will "tank" as the two grow in different directions -- and quickly so. Most divorces happen within the first two years of marriage -- and most partners in a divorce are under 21 years of age. And so it goes.
As my students get older -- many of them are in the 2nd through 5th year after their divorce and they are now justified in their beliefs that: there is no hope for romance, that their children will never have a normal life due to insufficient support from them (of all types) particularly of money and emotional grounding, and...life is simply crappy.
RESIST!
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