For My Friend Hilary McIndoo

Don't be afraid -- I am an honorable man. Don't be afraid -- I am a gentle-man. Understand that I am a moral person who lives to include another person's morality within my one. Understand that I am a tactile, compassionate, and loving person -- in spite of my mind. Understand that I don't wish to control you (that would be impossible anyway) but only to "be with you."

I think I understand you about some things -- but not everything. I live by the rules of : tolerance, respect, doing as much good as I can, love, and sharing when I can.

"First, do no harm" is another "rule of life" that I live by. I have always been thus, even when you were a gentle sixteen and I was in my 20's.  I used to be a well-versed over-educated Catholic "boy" -- but now I am a Ko-Shinto Buddhist "man." What does that mean? All of the above without any ritual(s) or bureaucracy.

I follow "the way" of life  -- life as a journey towards ... whatever comes next. I believe in God; though I don't know what he/she is, what he/she looks like, how he/she is involved day-to-day with the universe.

In practical terms my "proposition" to you is just to relax -- and get to know me. If you have time, come and visit me (don't let money or lack thereof stand in your way). Be open and I will be too.

To pre-answer your possible questions: there is no "romantic interest" in my life right now. There has only been one since She's death in 2006, and that was a fluke (that saved my life), and led to all the other good things that have happened since. She is now (for some time)  married to a long-time boyfriend (yes, there is a story there -- and a good one -- and you need to hear it someday.)

As to you -- you are a beautiful person, a beautiful woman, a strong friend. I don't want to change you or push you into a groove of "wifey lifestyle thinking."

Remember I know your brain in many ways -- through your extraordinary scripts, through your contact with Ella, and through your work. I have seen you -- I have even seen you as the respectful and careful host. We have swapped some personal family tidbits. But each of us has more to share; of that I am sure.

As to the world at large and Trump in general: continue to resist until the nightmare of "him" is over!